Too Much Of Something Is Bad Enough

2.19.2014

Have you ever had too much money in your life? What did you do? I started my Question of the Week series last week and I enjoyed writing my answers. What I love about it is knowing that there are no right or wrong answers to the questions, just pure reflection. Here's the link to last week's question. And this week's question is.. 

From Thought Questions

When I was still single, I only have myself to feed. Although I helped with paying off some of our loans and sent money for my brother's tuition, my parents never really asked anything from me. They were just thankful every time I sent money to them. Yep, I have the best parents in the world! 

I was just 20 when I started earning, and I earned more than enough for myself. I was a very committed and work-driven individual so it was easy for me to earn incentives on top of my basic pay. I was never late or absent and I worked really hard to get what I want. It came to a point when I felt that I didn't know what to do with my money anymore. BUT.. this is not to say that I have TOO MUCH. What can you expect? I was just 20.. and single at that.. with no one else to feed but myself. So I guess it's normal for a 20-year old to believe that she has more than enough to spend. I spent a lot. I spent most of my money on expensive clothes, shoes, bags, and a lot more. I partied and threw several bucks a night on things that did not really matter. I always took a cab even when I could just commute or walk my way to work. Thinking about them now, I thought of all the money I just wasted. I could have saved them. The more I earned, the more I spent. 

So you see? We earn. We get more money. And then we yearn for more. We feel that the money we earn is not enough anymore. We want more! And when we get more, we spend more.. until it comes to a point when we spend more than we earn, and spend for things we don't need. For me, the downside of having too much money is that we never get content of what we already have. We forget to appreciate the small things and be grateful of the things that we're blessed with. 

Too much money breeds pride and envy. People commit crimes even to the people they love because of money. We see it all over the world. People fight over money.. money that does not even belong to them. People impress other people by spending money they don't have. The world still continues to live in the triangle of life where the richest on top are only a few while the poorest at the bottom are so many. As time goes by, nothing's changed that much. The rich gets richer and the poor gets poorer. There are a lot of rich people though who share their blessings and with that, my hope in humanity is still quite intact. I admire people who, despite being so rich, are still living a simple life.

I'm not rich. I don't have too much money. And I'm working to live my life day by day with my family in mind. My goal is to save so that we can have something to spend during emergency situations and at least earn a little extra so that we can have a simple family getaway and buy the things we want every now and then.

I guess it's normal to yearn for more especially when we know that we're working hard to earn more. I'm all for that. I also want to earn more but only to give just enough for my family. I don't want to deprive my son of the things he needs and I also want to be able to give him what he wants from time to time. As they say, too much of something is bad enough, right? 

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  1. I used to make so much money! And I lived alone, rented a place with my sister, didn't eat expensive foods...etc. I did spend a lot of money on clothes and gifts for my family.
    These days I'm so poor that I literally have dreams I'm finding wads of cash on the ground! Don't worry - I've never stolen from anyone and I never plan to. Every now and then I'll get a high paying job and it will make me want more, more, more!!
    I can't seem to win but I have faith.

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    1. Faith can go a long way.. It's nice to make so much money, isn't it? And it's nice to know too that our hard-earned money go to things that we really need and want. I do have my ups and downs when it comes to finances and I just try not to think too much about it to avoid stressing myself out. Hehe :)

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  2. I think that it is part of us humans to always want more. Whether these are materialistic things, grass being greener, more money, more sun, more god knows what.. We are never fully satisfied. We might get what we want, be happy.. at a point.. get the desire for something better (this is subjective though, who says it's better?) and something more. Sometimes that desire screws us over more than it does us any good.. to put it so eloquently haha, sorry. :P On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with wanting more from life.. but we should beware of what the consequences might be :) more isn't always better. Thanks for the post, Rea.x

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    1. Thanks for this great comment Natasja! I agree that there's nothing wrong with wanting more from life.. as long as we're doing things the right way. And as long as we live, we will always have that desire to want more, it just never stops.. so I guess the idea is that we should be more aware of what we're using our money for. :)

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  3. Talk about perfect timing! haha This questions is for me! lol

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    1. I know right? Perfect for you! And good luck on your new endeavor :D

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  4. This makes me think. I'm lucky enough not having to think about things as paying the bills yet, I still with my parents, but this kind of makes my heart sink to my boots. Glad I read it though - such an amazing post! Wishing you the best xoxo

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    1. Thank you Raya! Good for you that you're not thinking of the bills yet but once you do.. you'll be overwhelmed. LOL. You'll eventually get used to it though and you'll make bill paying a part of your life too.. Hah! :D

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  5. I don't think I've ever had too much money, but I've always had enough, and I'm grateful for that! I went straight from my family of 9, to being in college and working part-time, just enough to keep the gas in the car, to being married and my husband and I started saving for the future when we have children. My husband, though, when he graduated college he moved in with his parents and he says he felt like he had more money than he knew what to do with--he was able to help pay his parents' mortgage, pay off his student loans, and buy himself whatever he wanted all the time because he didn't have responsibilities outside of those. But then when we got married he got a little more serious. :)

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    1. I can see that most people feel they have too much money is when they don't have big responsibilities yet.. ironically to me, I didn't feel that I had money when I was with my parents, hehe. I had to work and earn my own money before I can actually feel that I have money. It's great to know that our experiences in life keep us grounded and knowing that we have just enough and still be grateful for it is a really nice attitude towards life. :)

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  6. I think you might be onto something here. I was just talking to a friend about why it seems so many Protestant preachers in America tend to have huge fall outs or have issues lording over people when they often times criticize Catholics for doing it and claim not to be doing it themselves and you know what she said?...it's because of money! She said that when people get money, no matter what they say they were going to do with it, they get different. I honestly think you both might be right. And then I thought about how even Jesus said it's difficult for a rich man to enter the kingdom, though not impossible. I'm thinking it's because of all the reasons that you both are saying. I think without having thought about it, it's primarily the reason why I don't wish to have more unless it's God's will for me to. If I'm in His will and doing what He says, I believe He will know when I can handle such things if ever :).

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    1. That line from the Bible about the rich man has always confused me before and now that you mentioned it, I can remember what it is about now. And I think you're right too! I always dream of winning the lottery and having too much money though that's impossible because I've never done lottery at all! LOL. And so I thought at the back of my head that maybe God does not want me to have a lot of money because he knows what that can bring.. Thanks for sharing a wonderful input Brittnei! :)

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  7. I also wasted too much money when I had my first job - my officemates and I dine out almost every week and I used my payroll atm as a debit card every time I buy personal stuff. I spend first before I save and that's not right, I should have saved first then spend what is left. I wish I knew about mutual fund back then and invested my money instead of spending it on unimportant things. Maybe I have an emergency fund by now if I just invested my money. Though I'm imprudent with what I earn, I always give a portion of my earnings to my parents. But I thought I shoul've been more responsible.

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    1. I always thought that we at least deserve to enjoy our earnings especially when it's our first paycheck.. but then after that, we should also be aware of what we're doing with our money. I don't have enough savings myself even until now.. and I'm still struggling with it.. but I'm hoping to build my emergency fund day by day :)

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  8. Very informative post. I totally agree with you that once we earn more, we start to WANT more... Sometimes greed can be a powerful thing.

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    1. It's indeed a powerful thing.. Thanks Kyle! :)

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    I'm your newest follower and look forward to your next post!

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    1. Thank you Helen! Appreciate it! Can't wait to check out your blog & follow. Great day to you!

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  10. I don't know that I believe in having too money. The Bible does say that the LOVE of money is the root of all, not the money itself and that's where a lot of people get confused. At the end of the day, it's how you let the money that you have control you that can be too much or too extreme.

    No, everyone with tons of money doesn't always make the best decisions or spread the wealth, but they have to live with the consequences of their actions. It's easy to point the finger at the money, but money is just paper and metal. It's the person behind the money that's the problem and their lack of self control to temptation, morals or faith.

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    1. I believe in what you're saying Elizabeth. I've also come across that message that the love of money is the root of evil and not money itself.. so you made a really good point here. I think the lack of self-control is one reason why people can't make good use of money. Thanks for your insightful comment! :)

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  11. So true how when we are younger and have extra money we just tend to spend more. And then our priorities shift when we have a family. I think the best thing we can do is teach our children the importance of saving, while still enjoying. It sounds like you are doing exactly that!
    xo ~kim & chloe

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    1. I love the idea of saving while still enjoying. My son is still turning 3 though but I'm definitely going to teach him exactly that. We're not rich so saving has to be an important part of our finances. Thanks for your input! :)

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  12. I had way too much money at the start of my career. The most ridiculous thing I spent money on was hiring a dog sitter for my dog. Really?! People told me to save, invest and although we are doing okay now I really wish I listened. Everything is better in moderation, including money.

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    1. Wow, hiring a dog sitter for a dog you actually love? Lol! :) I guess saving is the last priority when we're young and still starting. Hehe.. But when we grow more mature and responsible and start having our own families, that's when everything sinks in.

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  13. for me, i'm all about earning more so that i don't have to work until i'm in my mid-seventies or eighties. more money = earlier retirement.

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    1. i agree. it's always nice to live a comfortable lifestyle once we retire :)

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  14. Balance is so important when it comes to money! I have never been in a place in my life where I feel I have too much, but I have been lucky to have enough! However often I have had to struggle finding the balance between working too much and finding time for myself. That goes hand in hand with your point- sometimes being driven can backfire with us and we need to step back and really think what we need.

    Thank you for a lovely post!

    Maria
    www.musicteachingandparenting.com

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    1. Thank you Maria! You have a wonderful input. I'd love to have just enough instead of too much. I think it will keep me more grounded. Balance -- it's a great thing to have in our day to day lives.. so thanks for bringing that up!

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