When Life Throws You Lemons

2.23.2014

Five days had passed and it seemed like 5 years to me. Okay, I'm exaggerating I know. It's just that this week had been so tough and rough. This week.. I got a true test of patience.. tests if I may say. In my quest towards a stress-free life and choosing happiness, I find that both are not possible without a few humps and bumps down the road. Life, if this is what you have for me? Alrighty, challenge accepted! Let's get it on! 

Early this week, my husband lost quit his job and he promised to find a new one ASSAP - as super soon as possible and told me that everything's gonna be fine. I just smiled. Of course, everything's gonna be fine. I have so much trust in him that I didn't need to panic no matter how hard things can get. Inhale, exhale.. then..


The next day, he told me that his brother wouldn't be able to send money for their electricity bill. And I say their, not our because of this.. You see, there are two houses in this place we're living in - one big and one small house. We all used to live in the big house and had one family rent the small one. When that family left, my husband's brother decided that we (my husband, my son, and I) move to the small house because he figured that a toddler around their house is too much to handle which is surprising because he doesn't even stay at our house as he's working away from home.. which also means that he doesn't have to bear with my son running around all the time. Although I didn't know why he's making the decision when it's not even his house, I gladly obeyed because they already started moving our things out before we could even react (this happened last year). My husband got mad at him but I told him that it's fine. At least we get to have our own house. I heard his brother say that he will pay for all expenses on that big house and we will pay for ours.. to which I agreed on. 

So just imagine my feeling when my husband told me that we had to pay their bills (again) this month because his brother wouldn't be able to send money yet. It was their decision for us to move out so now that we did, why should we pay their bills? I sulked for a day and thought of how unfair they are. My budget for the week was ruined, I had to use my credit card for my son's milk and diapers even though I vowed not use it for 6 months, plus I felt so selfish and confused. My husband who just lost his job has the heart to give even when we have almost nothing left for the week before my next pay day. I didn't even want to use my savings, not at all. We never got to use it, at least. Do you think I'm just being selfish? Or hurt? Or disappointed? I told myself that I'm just being selfish. They will pay the money back, we just don't know when.

Generosity breeds.. (Photo credits)

When I woke up one morning and requested my husband to cook for me, he said that we could no longer cook because we ran out of gas.. and imagine my distress upon hearing it. Why, because one week ago I already gave them money to buy gas but I found out they used it to pay for other bills in their house. I stormed off the house with an empty stomach and arrived to work very hungry. It was a Monday and I was handling a new class. What a great start of the week, right?

When I arrived to work, I found out that the AC in our training room was still busted. So when I entered the room, it was like a sauna.. only that you'd feel more stressed than relaxed. I sighed and held my breath for a while. What am I gonna do? My new trainees arrived and minute by minute, I heard them complaining about how warm it was. It was! And there are 24 of them confined in a small classroom, so what do you expect? Plus they're too rowdy and they're all whining like kids and that made the situation even worse. Oh God. I wanted to cry, go home, and leave them there. I was hungry and it was hot like hell! And while I was lecturing, my sweat would trickle all over my body and I'd notice my trainees getting impatient and restless too. That went on for the entire week - no AC at all.


This is probably how I looked... (Photo credits)

Have you ever felt that you've had enough? That was what I felt for the entire week. But.. I survived! Because I took it all in, one by one.. one day at a time. I did complain for a while and somehow, a voice inside my head tells me that complaining doesn't do anything so do something! Let's just say it's not really their intention to not pay their bills on time. Lesson learned, it's alright to say no. Also, the AC was something that's out of my control but I was able to build my workaround through it so that we didn't have to suffer the heat for the entire week.

Sometimes, you just have to take it all in.. and let go.. let go of the things you can't control.. I keep on telling myself that. I still consider myself blessed because after everything that happened this week, I'm blessed with a long weekend and more time to spend with my family.



So when life gives throws you lemons, you can wish that the lemons would be good enough to make a lemonade but if they aren't, then think of other ways to make use of them but if they're of no good anymore, then just let go of them. :)

 
I found this inspiring LEMONADE meaning from this website.

Laugh. It's the best medicine. 
Embrace others and surround yourselves with those who you want to thrive.
Move forward with a fixed focus to make a tangible difference one day at a time. 
Open your mind and your heart. 
Notice all the things in your life to be thankful for. 
Adjust your attitude and expectations.
Decide to challenge your circumstances and do unto others as you would have done unto you. 
Evaluate your actions instead of blaming others and remaining in "victim" mode. 

Hope you have a fantastic week ahead!

18 comments :

  1. grabe sis i would have been extremely stressed na and i salute you for handling your situations with grace and positivity :) will pray for your family that the next few days will be different and fulll of peace and blessings :D

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    1. Hi Shayne! Appreciate your concern. It was a super hectic week but nevertheless I was able to overcome it.. Kita mo naman, poise pa rin! Lol. Hope you're having a great weekend ahead! :)

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  2. Ouch! Sounds like it was a tough week, indeed. I admire that you can still find the lemonade among all those lemons. Yikes! Take it day by day, one breath at a time. I hope you have a better week next week!

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    1. Finding the lemonade is a nice feeling after all. Thanks Gracielle! Hope you have a great week too!

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  3. Oh honey. I have been there! Especially with the buying milk and diapers on a credit card.. that is the worst. It will be ok! Wishing you a much better week ahead.

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    1. Thanks Tamara! I'm starting to have a good week. I'm sure everything's gonna be fine. Hope you have a great week too! :)

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  4. That does sound like a rough week and I am sorry you had to go through it. I don't think you are being selfish, just human. It never is fun, but I think you handled it well. Sometimes it is good to let it go, life usually never goes the way we like it anyways. I hope next week is much better :) x

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    1. Thanks Natasja! I'm beginning to have a great week now. Appreciate your concern so much. It does me good when I let go so I guess that's what I'm gonna do most of the time. Hope you have a great week ahead.

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  5. Oh wow, there were quite a few really tough situations that came up for you and your family in the past week! I can only imagine how stressful that would be, but I think that it's awesome that now, looking back at the past week, you can take joy in persevering and working through the tough situations, even though not everything is fully resolved.

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    1. It was stressful. Fortunately, I was able to overcome it. And you're right, looking back, I guess I'll know what to do now when I get those kinds of situations. Thanks Rachel! Hope you have a great weekend! :)

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  6. I'm so happy you were able to find peace through it all. I honestly don't think we learn patience and how to be content through just declaring or saying we will do it, I believe it's learned by life experiences. I think we are all seeing that pan out with you, Rea. One day, things like this will come up and you won't feel the way you did initially. Well, that has been what has happened to me. I rarely panic when financial puzzles or struggles come up because I trust in God and I know from experience and past circumstances, that's He's got us. :) So instead of grumbling and complaining, it's easier now that I know what the outcome will be to just comfort my husband to show him I'm not upset or worried and to help be apart of the solution if I can help him find one in any way :)

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    1. Oh Brittnei, thank you for being such an inspiration! I'm learning so much from you and how you handle tough situations. And I'm glad too that I'm learning to be more patient through my experiences. We're very blessed to have a loving family and that is what's important.

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  7. Girl, I've been there! Complaining doesn't do anything! Taking positive steps to end the situation is really the only way to go. Even if it's someone else's "fault" you are still the person who has to deal with it, and the anger only causes awful residual effects. Sending love and prayers your way. Thank you for linking up with Countdown in Style.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words April! Appreciate it! You're right that anger only makes things worse. I'm glad I have a strong heart to overcome everything..

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  8. So sorry about your week. I know how it feels to be disappointed with others when it comes to finances. I live with my too brothers. They were so used to me being the one to pay rent, water, internet, etc. But when I quit teaching and started doing private tutoring, my salary decreased greatly. They now have to contribute immediately, instead of 'refunding' me. And my younger brother constantly complains that I need a job, like my tutoring isn't work. Your post brought tears to my eyes. And I pray that God allows your situation to improve. Thanks for sharing your story on Countdown In Style.

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    1. Thank you for empathizing with me Tameka. I'm actually relieved that a lot of people tell me that it's not really my fault and that maybe I'm just disappointed. Sorry to hear that you went through a similar situation. I honestly think that whatever work we do, we have to take joy in it and some people just don't understand when we choose to do what we want to do. Thank you for your concern once again! :) And sorry this brought you to tears. :)

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  9. Oh Rea, I feel your pain. I have been there too and yes I would have been mad too. Life sometimes throws you curveballs you can't predict. I'm sorry. But you're right, it doesn't do any good to wallow in it.

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    1. Thanks Michelle!! I'm glad to know that what I felt was only temporary and I wouldn't want to take a grudge on anyone or anything.

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